For some reason, at all times there is such a law that for women the most important thing in life is to get married, but men are in no hurry to do this. And it turns out that we can only wait for this significant event to happen, but we ourselves cannot do anything. Though…
First you need to understand why men postpone the proposal indefinitely? The main reason is the fear of all obligations. Indeed, with the conclusion of marriage, the husband has a huge number of responsibilities that the wife tries to transfer to him. And he understands that this is forever, that over time there will only be more and more of them. And rights - less and less. Well, if suddenly something does not work out for men, then reproaches are not long in coming. And the question is, well, why do they need all this?
But the conversation is now about how to make a man do what we want, and so that he does not even guess. Next, we give a list of the most effective ways to conquer a man, so much so that he runs to the registry office in a week.
Tip 1. It is necessary to pretend that you do not want to get married at all. And, as you know, a man will do everything exactly the opposite. Never start a conversation about it, never show that you would like to be a bride. Do not tell him this either directly, or indirectly, or in hints. He must make such an important decision himself. A man should feel that this act depended only on him, that no one forced him to do it, and that he himself decided everything.
Tip 2. Show the man that he is not the only one who likes you. And you don't have to always be with him. There are still so many beautiful and caring men around who can easily take you away. And in order for this not to happen, your man must assert his rights. That's why he is in a hurry to legitimize the relationship. So that no one else will encroach on what belongs to him.
Tip 3. For men, it is very important how his chosen one looks. Therefore, try to take care of yourself, to be an ideal woman for him. After all, all men love to brag to their friends, and realize that he got the best of all women.
Tip 4. Naturally, men love sex. Therefore, women should also love him. You need to try to become an ideal lover for your partner, so that it doesn’t even occur to him to change, try something else. He should feel good at home, with you. And do not forget that men always like something new, they love various experiments.
Tip 5 Home should always be comfortable. This means that there should be such an environment and such an atmosphere where a man always wants to return. It is necessary that after work he hurries home, knowing that there he will always be understood, supported, that his beloved woman is waiting for him there, a hot dinner.
Tip 6 Of course, going to restaurants is very good, but sometimes you need to feed a man with homemade food. And the one you made yourself. Everyone known fact is that men love delicious food. And in general, in family life, the ability to cook is very useful.
Tip 7. A woman should love children. And not only their own, but all. Every man wants the woman he loves to give birth to a child, to be an exemplary mother. Try to spend time with any children more often, play with them, take them in your arms. In men, everything happens at the level of instincts.
Tip 8 Try to understand his interests. Sometimes, from the side of passion, men seem completely meaningless, but you just have to take a closer look, and you yourself can get involved. Maybe go to a football game with him, or watch the car get fixed. Firstly, you yourself may like it, and secondly, common interests put a man on you. But no need to overdo it.
Tip 9. Men love compliments too! It is necessary to tell him as often as possible how handsome, smart and kind he is. Everyone loves to be praised! Moreover, for a man it is important how his beloved woman appreciates him when he is the very best for her.
Tip 10. And vice versa, you should not scold him for mistakes and minor shortcomings. This, as you know, no one will tolerate. No one will like it when they constantly saw him and scold him for what the light stands. If something does not suit you, then you do not need to shout about it directly, but you should try to make him want to behave differently. But I would think at the same time that this is entirely his initiative.
Tip 11. You need to consult with a man as much as possible. Ask him everything! Against your background of helplessness, he will feel very strong, smart and courageous. If what he told you seems wrong, or just doesn't fit, silently do it your way. It would never occur to him to trace whether you followed his advice or not. The main thing is that they asked, which means you consider him smart.
Tip 12. Men hate it when women constantly whine and always complain about something. Nobody likes this at all. And men themselves also feel bad, they also have various problems, but they can’t just tell everyone about it like that. They are men, they are not supposed to by status. Although sometimes you want too. And then they are constantly poured a ton of problems and complaints!
Tip 13. We need to learn to understand each other. Without understanding, there will be no good, strong marriage. If you don't like a man's actions, try to understand why he behaves the way he does before you tell him everything. In all situations, you need to try to put yourself in the place of the second person.
Tip 14. It’s not enough to always be in a good mood yourself, you need to learn how to raise it for a man. During a hard working day, he is already too nervous, there are often only dissatisfied faces around. And it is so important that the atmosphere of peace and quiet fun reigned at home. After all, the most important thing for a man is when he is greeted at home with a smile.
Tip 15. It must be remembered that men love freedom. He will never be close to a woman who forbids everything to him, controls every step ... Leave him some of your personal space, do not climb entirely into the soul, and do not be jealous at every step.
And most importantly - do not forget about these tips after the wedding.
Many women dream of happily marrying a real man with whom a woman will feel like behind a stone wall. And this is a very good, very correct, from my point of view, dream, which must be fulfilled. A family, if it is happy, or at least normal, is great, it is a great joy, it is a serious, responsible approach to life. And you know what, dear women, it’s not difficult to get married, there are men for this business, you only need to select the most suitable of them for yourself, select them correctly, so that you won’t regret your choice ten times later. That's exactly what you have, as far as I know, and I know it well, and problems arise - it's hard for you to find yourself a normal man, whom you can trust yourself, who you can rely on, who solves, and does not create problems, and with who can have children without any fear for the future. Therefore, in this article we will talk with you about how to marry a normal, real man, and not just anyone. Let's see how this can be done.
First of all, you must understand, dear ladies, what kind of a normal man he is, from whom an excellent husband can turn out. I understand that the image of the ideal man lives in the head of each of you, and I am well aware of what qualities a man should have in order for you to want to marry him. But I also know that the kind of men you'd love to marry don't come around very often, if at all. And even if you have met normal men in your life, then for sure they were already busy. Therefore, your requirements for men - potential husbands, must meet the real state of affairs in a society in which, as you know, ideal men do not exist, and there are not so many less ideal ones. In a word, there are not enough princes for everyone, and many of the existing princes have serious shortcomings that not every woman is ready to put up with. In general, I offer you a revolutionary approach to finding a husband - I suggest that, given the current state of affairs in our society, forget for a while about all your requirements for men, except for the most important ones, and rely solely on your feelings when describing a husband. I offer you this approach, as you understand, not by chance, but on the basis of my life and professional experience, which made me understand a long time ago that people are not a product in a store, people are not chosen according to the list of functions that interest you. Of course, in search of a husband, a self-respecting woman must immediately weed out all sorts of degenerates, perverts, cauldrons, seducers, womanizers, don Juans, gigolos and womanizers. Here you need to turn on the mind and not allow such men - who are absolutely unsuitable for husbands - to fool themselves. But when you meet, even if not the best, but still, a harmless, responsible, hardworking and at least something useful to you man - you need to trust your feelings and let them let this man into your life.
A normal man is a man, without pronounced, extremely harmful shortcomings for a woman, for a family and for himself. That's all, there's nothing more to invent here. I understand that a woman herself can be just perfect, and therefore she has the right to count on more - a high-ranking male, with money, with appearance, with a position in society, and so on and so forth. But you also understand that such a male knows his own worth very well, perfectly understands the desire of women to be with him, knows perfectly well that he will always have a large selection of females, and therefore stop him on one particular woman, no matter how perfect she is, he is not in a hurry. And since you don’t know what kind of life wives live, such high-ranking males, don’t rush to envy them, but rather think about how interesting life can be with a normal, not ideal, not high-ranking, but just a normal man who is not a degenerate , not a moron, not a womanizer. Living with such a man is much more interesting than life without a man at all! Do you understand? Well, why should you deprive yourself of pleasure and refuse such a husband, especially if we are talking about a promising man who, not today or tomorrow, will achieve something in this life? There is no need for you to do this. And in order to understand this, you need to find fault with a man less, looking for flaws in him.
I know cases when women refused a man just because he didn’t have a car, or because he didn’t dress the way they wanted, or because he worked in a low-class job, but at the same time, mind you, he had quite a decent income. Well, why, one wonders, do we need all these nonsense, who is better off from them and who is worse off? This is definitely worse for women, because they remain in splendid isolation because of such nit-picking with a man, or they find themselves, pardon the expression, some kind of "goats", with whom they therefore do not live, but suffer. After all, I solved and solve similar problems all the time, so I know what I'm talking about. And a man with minor flaws, or even without them at all, but only without great virtues, will not be left without a woman, believe me. And when he gets a car, when he starts to dress better, when he changes jobs, he will no longer pay attention to the one who refused him when he had nothing. Why does a man need a woman - not ready to be next to him in difficult, or simply not in the most better times? Such a female consumer is not support, not a support for a man - she is a capricious child who always doesn’t like something. And not every man, I assure you, is ready to indulge women's whims. And why, if there are non-capricious women?
Having decided on the image of the future husband that exists in reality, a woman should ask herself the following question - where to look for him? I think you understand very well that in all these pubs, bars, taverns, nightclubs and other similar places, normal men, that is, men who can make a good husband, almost never appear. Yes, at a young age, wherever our feet take us, therefore, one should not be too critical of all these places, and nevertheless, a woman should not look for a husband in such places, because he is not there. And where is he? Everywhere, except for the above places. No, well, really, do you think that normal men, fit for husbands, graze in some special field, or spend their time in some special establishments that few people know about? Yes, these men walk past you every day - to work, from work, to shops, to parks and so on. In more or less decent places - that's where you need to look for a husband. Depending on the hobbies and lifestyle of men, they can visit different places. Someone likes to attend sporting events more, for example, football, someone business forums, business seminars, various exhibitions and so on. Wealthy men like to relax in elite resorts, visit expensive restaurants, gather in VIP clubs and private parties. So in this sense, nothing fundamentally has changed, normal people, as they gathered, are still gathering, mainly in normal places - for people where there are practically no degenerates. With the exception of the Internet, which has become a relatively new place for some people to meet. On the Internet, you are unlikely to find a rich groom, at least I don’t know such cases, but you can get to know a completely normal man. I recommend that you create a profile for the most popular dating sites and regularly monitor incoming messages from men. Yes, there will be a lot of slag, where would it be without it, but if you competently weed out this slag, you will definitely find very interesting options among it, you can be sure of it. You yourself should also study the profiles of men on dating sites, and immediately respond to the most, from your point of view, the most interesting of them. Do not forget that good men are taken apart quickly, even on the Internet. In general, finding something good is always a difficult job, but it is necessary to do it if you want to find exactly what you need. In our case, you, dear women, need to find yourself a husband, and in order to find him, you need to search the entire Internet and visit all the decent places in your city in order to increase your chances of success. So do not limit yourself in your means - set up networks for normal men, as wide as possible.
Now let's talk about how to look for a husband. One of the biggest mistakes people make modern women, is - their inaction! Many women are not unreasonably convinced that it is men themselves who should take the initiative and get to know the woman they like. Women want men to show attention to them and take the first step towards getting to know each other, and they, women, in turn, will only choose a suitable gentleman for themselves, sending off men who are not interesting to them. Dear ladies - be modern, do not live in yesterday. I understand that you want to be pursued, you need knights - brave, passionate, self-confident men, ready for anything for you. But times have changed, life has changed, now every person takes what he needs. Yes, there are men who can take the initiative and approach you themselves, but what kind of men will they be, what kind of men will they be, for what purpose will they approach you? There are different options, and among them may not be the best. Be smarter and bolder - go and take what you need yourself. Choose a suitable man for yourself and interest him in you. Today, in this case, the rule of self-service applies - do not take care of your own fate, no one will take care of it. Don't know how to interest a man? Are you afraid to be proactive, afraid to take the first step? Well, then why do we need psychologists, if not to help you in this and other issues? Ask for help from those who will teach you to take from life what you need! Don't wait for something to fall into your mouth or fall into your hands. If you need a husband, go and take him. Otherwise, other women will turn out to be faster than you and grab all the normal men for themselves, leaving you with all sorts of degenerates and perverts. You don't have to be afraid of anything. No need to wait for the weather by the sea. You never know who and what should do first, in life a lot should be different, but it is not. Some men simply have no time to look for you in your apartments and offer you their hand and heart, they fight all day long for a normal life, for a place in the sun, they have no time for romance. It’s all sorts of cauldrons, seducers, womanizers, don Juans, gigolos and womanizers have plenty of time for romance, but out of the vast majority of such romantics, there are no husbands! These are toys for a woman - boys for the soul, not husbands.
So today those who need more take the initiative, you understand? Not men should take the initiative, but you. After all, if you need it, you do it. If some man likes you, he will certainly take the initiative, if he is a normal, not cowardly man, and get to know you. But you don't have to wait. Act yourself. A man will show interest in you - well, you will look closely at him, he will not suit you. And if he doesn’t show it - show this interest yourself! This is how you go to the store for a new handbag, a new dress, new shoes and other things, this is how you go to places where normal men gather - to choose a husband for yourself. By the way, do not forget about the Internet, in it, if you try, you can find yourself a completely normal husband. It is possible, believe me, I myself have helped many women to do this many times. You just need to competently approach this issue so as not to run into scammers, losers, gigolos, perverts and villains. In ordinary life, too, you need to be smart about choosing a man for marriage, right? Anyhow anyone and anyhow where you should not cling, so as not to contact very bad men. So on the Internet, just like in everyday life, you need to be able to identify normal men.
And finally, the last thing I would like to tell you very much, dear, dear, respected women, is your self-confidence. She must be, and if she is not there, you need to work hard on her, because if you want to find yourself a normal husband - a self-confident man, then you yourself must, and be, and seem to be a completely self-confident woman, so that men feel your worth. If you want to marry a normal man, know how to present yourself beautifully to him. And for that, you definitely need self-confidence. But if you don’t know how to present yourself beautifully, then at least somehow present yourself to a man - be active, energetic, persistent, courageous. For this, you also need self-confidence. Without confidence in this life - nowhere! If you don’t have this confidence, raise it yourself, yourself, if you know how, or with the help of a specialist who will competently work with you on your self-confidence. Without self-confidence, it will be difficult for you to find yourself a normal man. Due to their lack of self-confidence, women often blame men for being lonely. But men are not to blame for this, men have enough problems of their own, and you, dear women, need to be responsible for yourself and your life and not shift it to men. How many times have I been convinced that if a woman is single, it is only because she is overly picky and makes very high and sometimes completely inadequate demands on men, or she is waiting for a prince who does not exist in nature at all, or her complexes interfere with her, with which she could well turn to a psychologist to help her get rid of them, or her own unwillingness to be married makes her lonely. And very, very much hurts a woman, as well as a man, her self-doubt. It is generally difficult for insecure people to achieve something significant in this life, so you definitely need to work on this problem, if, of course, you have it.
Today, both women and men need to be able to competently and beautifully offer themselves to each other in order to interest each other in this way. This is how salespeople praise their product in order to sell it, and this is how you need to praise yourself so that you are wanted - that they want to be near you. It is very important. Here, imagine a seller who will tell buyers that his product is of very poor quality, that he has a bad history and that he has a lot of flaws. How much will he sell? It is clear that no. It will be difficult for him to sell something, even if he tells his customers the honest truth about his product, or simply be passive. An honest, lazy, notorious, insecure seller will not sell anything, or sell, but very little, because people want to have good, high-quality, prestigious, touted, bright things that they can be proud of. And for this, they must see that the seller himself is proud of his product, that he loves it himself, that he is absolutely confident in himself and his product. People need a story about a product, a beautiful story, of course. So men need a fairy tale about you, dear ladies - a beautiful fairy tale that only you can tell them. You don't have to tell them anything bad about yourself. You, in the good sense of the word, are a “goods” for men, just like they are for you, and the “goods” being sold, or rather, offered, cannot be bad! You can't be a bad woman with a bad history because you shouldn't be. You must yourself be sure that you are a great woman, an ideal woman, you must love yourself so that others love you. You don’t need to turn your nose high and look down at all men, they don’t like it. Just let men understand, with all your appearance, all your behavior, and of course, with the help of your words - that you are very valuable, but at the same time, accessible to normal - earthly men, a woman.
And even though we all know perfectly well that a person is not perfect and everyone has their own advantages and disadvantages, we still want to hear about those with whom we are going to connect our fate - mostly only good things. After all, you don’t need an insecure man with a lot of shortcomings and complexes as a husband, right? So a man wants to see next to him a woman who highly appreciates herself, who loves herself and who is almost perfect, at least in her words. People love not matter - people love images! Create a beautiful image of yourself and present it to the man you are interested in, and then he will become your husband.
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Now there is a lot of information in books and the Internet about how to get married. These books and articles contain thousands of tips on how to do it better and easier, how easy it is to find the man of your dreams. Some of these tips are working, some are non-working, some apply to all women, and some apply only to some. And many tricks are generally contraindicated for some girls.
From such a disparate amount of information, sometimes understanding is not so much improved as it becomes completely incomprehensible.
And how can a girl understand which technique suits her and which does not? How to understand what needs to be done first, and what then? How to understand a girl, how to please a man at first, how to keep a man later, and subsequently turn the relationship into a serious one?
This will help you Marriage Formula. And if you analyze yourself according to this formula, then everything falls into place. You will immediately see which place is weak and which is strong. What you need to pay attention to first of all, what can wait, and what does not matter at all. And already under the weak area to select some tricks and exercises.
So, the Marriage Formula = The number of potential husbands revolving around the girl multiplied by the ability of the girl to make a boyfriend out of a potential husband and understanding of the psychology of men multiplied by Adequate self-esteem multiplied by Positive attitude towards marriage multiplied by the ability to make a husband out of a boyfriend. That's the whole formula. And now, in order, a commentary on each component of the formula and how to apply it.
1. The number of potential husbands revolving around the girl.
If a girl (woman) wants to get married, then the first question she should ask herself is how many potential husbands are around her? If 1 potential husband revolves around the girl, then the chances are not very good, if 3, then the chances increase, if 10, then the chances are very good. More than 10, I think, does not make sense. The main thing is that they not just run around you, as, for example, 1,000 potential husbands can pass through a cashier in a store a day, but that they communicate with you at one time or another.
Now what do I understand by potential husbands. It's not just any man. Sometimes it seems obvious, but let's repeat it anyway. In total, which men are potential husbands, and which are not?
Who does not apply to potential husbands. In the book "How to fall in love with a man for life and successfully marry"? I wrote about this in more detail, in this article I will briefly:
- Married men do not belong to potential husbands. It seems obvious, but some girls console themselves with the hope that a man will leave his wife for her sake. As a rule, a married man "leaves" his wife for several years, and, in the end, will not leave anyone. And in fact, he was not going to leave the family.
- Men who have an extremely negative attitude towards marriage and / or women in general do not belong to potential husbands. There are men whom a woman or wife betrayed, cruelly deceived, laughed at, etc. And these men talk about it right and left, they can’t forget the insults. Some have a phrase family relationships is nauseating and they talk about it to anyone who is willing to listen. I also refer to men who have a negative attitude towards family and marriage to old bachelors, that is, who have never been married and are over 40-45 years old. It is possible that in 5-10 years these men will change their point of view on marriage, but this is too long.
- Do not apply to potential husbands too young men who have not yet completed their studies at higher institution, do not have their own source of income, housing, etc. This is a common mistake of girls aged 18-23. Their peers, sad as it may sound, with rare exceptions, are rather poor candidates for husbands. They need to finish their studies, take a walk, and, as a rule, a normal man rarely marries without his own income.
- I do not include alcoholics, drug addicts, players prone to violence, etc. to potential husbands.
- Potential husbands do not include professional Don Juans, as well as Don Juans - lovers,
- Potential husbands, with a big stretch, include men who are too different from you in upbringing. Therefore, they fell into this category. If you like rock, and he likes classics, you like to sit quietly at home together in the evening, and he needs daily parties until the morning, etc., then this man is a stretch for potential husbands specifically for you.
Of course, male manipulators do not apply to potential husbands either. Such men are quite difficult to identify, especially if the girl is young and inexperienced. Read more about manipulators in the article. “How to recognize a male manipulator and what to do? (Part 1)" or in a book “23 mistakes with men. First date mistakes.
Now about those who are potential husbands:
- Potential husbands include men who are already working and earning enough to support at least themselves. Ideally, his income should allow him to support his wife and child when she is on maternity leave.
- To potential husbands, I include men who you do not really like at the moment. It happens that an inexperienced or in love man may not behave very adequately at the first meeting, and you will not like it. He can be embarrassed and silent in the presence of a girl he likes. Or, on the contrary, to carry any "nonsense", just to attract attention. Do not cut him off right away, perhaps he will gather his thoughts and courage and everything will be better on the second attempt. He will stop talking nonsense, or vice versa, he will talk and turn out to be quite a pleasant young man. And in the future, you will realize that he is not only pleasant in communication, but also faithful, reliable, etc. After some time, you will catch yourself thinking that you want to live your life only with him.
- Potential husbands include men who are in the ideal age for marriage - 25-38 years.
In total, the girl first of all must evaluate the number of potential husbands revolving around her. It may turn out that there are a lot of men around you, but there are none or very few among them. potential husbands. If so, then it is definitely necessary to ensure that there are more of them. There are a lot of ways here, starting from changing jobs, visiting a gym where such men live, enrolling in studies where there are a lot of them, attending courses, more active communication with girls, surrounded by men, attending weddings, birthdays, etc. d. Certainly in Lately the trend of dating through the Internet is gaining momentum. If there are few men around, then this method can also be used.
2. The next important part of the formula “how to get married” is the ability to make a boyfriend out of a potential husband.
Under boyfriend we will understand not a one-time acquaintance and sex, but the courtship of a man for a girl for at least several months.
This is a very important part of the marriage formula. It happens that dozens of men literally curl around a girl, but she cannot make a woman out of any of them. boyfriend.
They either don’t get to know the girl at all, don’t invite them to dances, etc., or appear on one or two dates and then disappear (Again, we don’t say that this is a mistake at the selection stage, for example, Don Juan).
If this is true, then you need to work on the following skills:
- Self-confidence (on how to develop self-confidence,);
- Ability to listen to men, communicate with them;
- The ability to send a man, not too rude and not too far when he brazenly rushes and forces things. In general, a man needs to be treated very harshly. Of course, tough by women's standards, by men's - this is normal communication. Men love it and take it well. Again, a small comment, otherwise you will do the opposite. Rigidity is not silence or ignoring for weeks, rigidity is not a rejection of sex, rigidity is not insults that are remembered for years, rigidity is not hysteria, rigidity is not rude jokes and manipulations.
The rigidity that men normally perceive is when a woman knows how to value and respect herself, when she can say “No” or put a “presumptuous” male representative in her place. In general, this skill is one of the most important skills of a woman, someday I will write an article about it.
- Ability to take care of yourself appearance, weight, clothing, etc.;
- Ability to take initiative
- Ability to be restrained. Don't sleep with all the men in a row, don't settle for sex too quickly, let the man woo a little. Women who do not know how to restrain themselves earn a peculiar reputation in their circle and are less likely to marry such women.
3. The next part of the formula is adequate self-esteem, not too high requirements for men.
It also happens that men simply besiege a woman, but she does not like them all. That one is not like that, this one is not like that. And other men she likes, on the contrary, do not look after her and special attention do not show.
As a rule, the whole point is in the inadequate demand of the girl for men. Often found in girls who have grown up or work with men who have pronounced abilities and successes. But they do not understand that a man went to success for many years, and at one time he was also budding, but just a beginner!
For example, the girl's father is a rich man, strong-willed, smart, etc., in general, the dream of all women. They are visited by his partners and colleagues, who are also in all respects much higher than the average average man. A girl sees practically only such representatives of the stronger sex, and when she begins to get acquainted with ordinary guys who, by her standards, are “stupid, poor and weak-willed,” then she doesn’t like anyone or her parents don’t like her.
Often this happens to women who hold important positions in large organizations or government. organizations, for example, the secretary-referent of a major leader. They joke with her, smile at her, give her flowers and gifts. But the girl does not fully understand that it all comes not from her charm, but only from the significance of the position she occupies, the information she possesses.
Here, of course, you need to adjust your requirements for men, as well as develop confidence in order to withstand the possible negative attitude of parents.
4. Positive attitude towards family and family relationships.
If it is important for you to create a happy and strong family then sooner or later you will successfully marry. If family and family relationships are not important to you or cause negative feelings and emotions absorbed from childhood, then it will be much more difficult for you to get married. This is the most important part of the marriage formula. . Let me tell you a little about what family life is like.
Marriage and family are wonderful and delightful. It is much better than being alone and much better than constantly changing partners. A husband is a friend and comrade who will always understand you, support and reassure you better than a stranger or best friend.
Again, studying one man is a hundred times easier than studying many. Sex with a person who has known you for several years is much easier and more enjoyable than with someone who does not know your features and your body.
I list, and if you can add a few dozen more sentences about how wonderful family life is and how pleasant family relationships are, then that's good.
If my few enumerations of the benefits of marriage cause you to argue " this is not so, this is not quite so, I will do this, but I will never do this for men, and in general everyone around gets divorced and unhappy ", then you have an image of a negative attitude towards the family in your head.
With such an attitude to family life, it will be difficult for you to look for your soul mate. You will constantly come across "male goats, men married, but hiding it", etc. And even if you get out, it will be difficult to create a happy family.
If for you family and marriage are unimportant, unpleasant, bad, etc., then you are unlikely to be able to make the necessary efforts to get married. And for a happy family, you will need to learn how to communicate with men, give up something in life (which can be difficult at the beginning), expand your social circle, look for places where men live, for which it may even change jobs, change yourself and your Lifestyle. Can you do it? If in your opinion “marriage is nonsense, everyone is unhappy and gets divorced”, then no. If “marriage is an amazingly beautiful thing, it is what makes a woman happy in many ways,” then you can certainly overcome temporary difficulties, I am sure of you.
Accordingly, if the weak point is in a negative belief in relation to the family, then it is necessary to change one's beliefs and images, rewrite parental programs. marriage. I immediately warn you that changing your image and beliefs is not reading an article, but training, everyday exercises and activities. They are partly described in our articles on our site "Sunny Hands" in the "Relationships between a man and a woman" section.
5. The ability to make a boyfriend out of a husband.
This part of the formula for some women is the most difficult. It can even be said that this is the secret part of the marriage formula, since it is rarely discussed compared to the rest of the parts. This knowledge is passed on from friend to friend, from older sister to younger sister, and so on. Sometimes even wives share this information with their husbands only after a few years of married life. In my case it was. Some kind of secret knowledge. But I will reveal them to you.
Suppose a girl lives with a man for several months or even years. They seem to live well and even talk about registration and marriage. But time goes by, somehow everything is postponed until tomorrow, the day after tomorrow, graduation, buying an apartment, etc. Then follows the usual, unremarkable quarrel - and the man leaves. A few months later he marries another woman. If this scenario is repeated with a girl several times, then this can greatly undermine the girl's self-confidence, and completely undeservedly.
Why is this happening?
First the reason is that the optimal period for getting married has passed since the moment you met a man. Approximately it is from 3 months to 1 year. Getting married earlier or later is not only impossible, but it presents much more difficulties.
Second and main reason the fact that a girl does not get married after several months or years of living with a man lies in the girl’s own image of how a man should propose himself. Usually this is an image that many 
seen enough in films and began in women's novels, again in novels that were written not by men, but again by women themselves!
Here is this image: a man invites a girl to a restaurant (or to another romantic place), he brings a bouquet of flowers, there are candles on the table, the musicians play the girl’s favorite melody. The man is dressed in a good suit, takes out wedding rings, kneels down and proposes to the girl. Fanfare, fireworks, the girl thinks a little and agrees, everyone applauds, etc.
If you have such an idea in your head, then I am very happy for you, and you better not read further - this can destroy your bright image.
For most first-time couples, however, there is nothing more distant between the ideal image and the real state of affairs.
In reality, most men who get married for the first time at the age of 24-34 receive a “little push” from their woman in order to decide to register a relationship (sometimes the push comes from relatives, girlfriends, etc.). This is perhaps the only exception when a woman should take the initiative. This quote fits right in here: “Hello, dear, turn on the first channel! - Turned it on. - What's going on there? -"Let's get married! - I AGREE!!!)))"
One example might look like this: “Darling, I love you very, very much. And you me? (The man, of course, says "Yes"). Well, since we both love each other, let's get married. (Here, before the final “Come on,” a bunch of excuses appear on the topic: “Where should we hurry”, “I’m not deceiving you, I’ll solve my problems and we’ll definitely get married”, “Let’s live together again, get to know each other better. You’ll think that together already more than two years, let’s get to know each other for another five years”, “No money for a wedding”, “After buying an apartment, studying”, etc.
If the man agrees, then discuss the date of submission of the application, and then fix it. Consolidation looks like the man’s proposal should be announced to a larger number of people, preferably in person, and not by phone, and preferably by himself at least half of the people you know. Immediately a small warning, consolidation should occur gradually, on one day one person, after a couple of days the second.
If there are excuses, then we strictly suppress. For example, "There is no money for a chic wedding, but I really want to please you." “No—and don’t need a big wedding! Only rings and sit in a cafe with parents, or even together. Etc.
If you continue to disagree, then the question is, why does a woman need such a man? Then we say something like this: “Beloved, I felt very good with you, but understand me, I need to arrange my personal life. So I'm leaving (or if you have it, then tell the man goodbye). Let's stay friends. I will always fondly remember the time spent with you, bye. Don't forget to take your things."
We don't call or meet again. Changing cell phone number and Email, we do not approach the landline phone. We refuse appointments through acquaintances. If needed, he will find it. — Treat it very carefully, re-read it several times!
Approximately half of the departed men, within 7-20 days, return and propose themselves, now perhaps already like in the movies.
The time you give a man to think, you don't have to wait for him. Don't hope. He may not return. So you need another man. Get active, immerse yourself in it with your head. You can meet other men little by little.
What are the most common mistakes made here? Girls talk to a man, it happens several times, but they don’t finish the job. The man mumbles something in response, justifies himself - and the girl is satisfied with this. It happens that a girl does not stand the waiting after the man has left and makes the biggest mistake- begins to call him up, correspond with him, etc. And everything goes back to normal. Excuses, months of waiting, etc.
What can I say. Unpleasantly, you need to do it rarely, and iron it often. - It's an axiom. If you want to cut off the tail of a dog several times out of pity or weakness, then this will not be better. Follow the outlined algorithm and everything will be fine, as far as possible.
Tell me that “you don’t need to do this with a man, everything will be different with me.” If so, then I'm happy for you. A man who has entered the ideal age for marriage of 26-33 years old, who has his own income and housing, who is already emotionally more mature, with whom you have correctly passed the stage of courtship, will probably do everything himself, without any pushes. But if everything is fine with you, you would not be reading this article.
6. How to use the marriage formula.
As we know from mathematics, if a number is multiplied by zero, no matter how large it is, it will still be zero.
Therefore, go through the components of the formula. If somewhere you have a very weak spot, then you need to direct all your efforts to eliminate it. For example, if there is not a single potential husband around you, then just change your social circle and be able to distinguish between people who pretend to be potential husbands, but they are not.
If you are at least satisfactory everywhere, then develop that part of the formula that is good for you.
If after the analysis it seems to you that everything is fine with you, but you still can’t achieve your goal, then pay attention to point 4, which refers to the image. This is a very important and difficult point. Read about it in other articles, try to work on changing it.
Sincerely, Rashid Kirranov.
Moscow, November 2. Today, in the age of equality, technological progress and global development Internet, it seems that people have become closer to each other. No one owes anything to anyone, you can see your loved one, even if he is on the other side of the earth, be in touch 24 hours a day. But despite this, people are still lonely. Any single girl or woman, deep down, dreams of meeting her ideal man who will appreciate her for who she is, and not trying to seem.
If you are increasingly wondering when the time will finally come to the altar, then pay attention to the following signs and tips. Perhaps your wedding day is closer than you think.
1. Catch a bouquet at a wedding
Of course, if you caught a bouquet at a wedding, this is a reason to think that the long-awaited day may come very soon. But do not forget that this is not about the fact that you will get married in a month. First of all, the sign means that among the girls who made you a company in the hunt for a bouquet, you will be the first to be married. The chances increase if it was a bouquet of peonies. According to statistics, 70% of the girls who caught the bouquet soon played their own wedding.
2. There is never too much wine
Another sign that predicts not only a quick marriage, but also a strong marriage, if at someone else's wedding you were accidentally doused with champagne or wine. And if the groom invited you to the dance, then the chances of an approaching marriage increase significantly.
3. Take care of the bride
If you want to get married faster, ask your bridesmaid for permission to hem the hem of her wedding dress. This tradition brings one's own marriage closer. In addition, the chances of success increase if after that you took the pin or needle from the dress with you.
4. If you want to get married, become a godmother
If you have been chosen as a godmother, it is worth preparing for the wedding in the next two to three years. It is believed that when the child begins to walk, then his godmother will marry.
5. Surround yourself with peonies
To get married, surround yourself with peonies. It can be real flowers or artificial, a picture of peonies. It is even better to embroider a peony yourself. It is believed that as soon as the final touch is done, you will meet the future groom.
6. Prick your finger
If during the celebration of the New Year you accidentally prick or cut your finger, then soon you can get married.
7. Sitting between siblings
If during someone else's wedding celebration you are sitting between two brothers or sisters, then this is a good sign of the upcoming marriage.
8. Find a bouquet of flowers
Another sign associated with a bouquet, but not so well known, is that if you accidentally find flowers somewhere, you can meet your future husband very soon. However, you should not pick up such a bouquet, it can carry negative information.
9. Strict fasting and prayer
If you want to get married, but not a single sign has worked, then it's time to start observing fasts. Every year on November 7, on the day of the Great Martyr Catherine, strictly fast, pray and attend church. It is also recommended to follow great post and pray for the groom.
10. Cacti: both want and prick
Your friends can help you get married faster. To do this, they should often give you cacti. This sign means a quick and successful marriage.
Of course, every girl dreams of meeting her one and only, but if you really want to live a long and happy family life, do not rush in choosing a partner. And most importantly - you do not need to carefully prepare for the time when you meet your love. Live for today, and then she will find you.
Ekaterina Degtereva
Vika DeeEvery woman wants to get rid of loneliness, start a family and live "happily ever after". Girls dream of being married for love, study manuals and even go to courses where they teach how to behave in order to get an offer and successfully marry a successful man.
Many openly admit: "I'm afraid to be alone and not get married." Others doubt whether it is necessary to get married at all; still others, especially after a divorce and with a child, are afraid to fall for the wrong person again. There are many who dream of getting married once and for all and live with your loved one "in grief and joy" until the end of his days, that's just no one takes.
A new category of women has also appeared who answer the question of whether to get married in the negative. And the point is not that they are not called, but that they do not see anyone, in any case, worthy partners for marriage. No, of course they have men, but main goal they have set a career in their life, and do not rush to condemn them, it is better remember the divorce rate, which is constantly growing.
good luck getting married
In the matter of marriage, a woman always balances between “I want” and “I’m afraid”: wanna Love and be loved, but I'm afraid that the marriage will collapse, and I will be left alone, and even with a child in my arms.
Is it necessary to get married, each woman decides for herself, there are no rules, but it’s right choose a life partner our tips can help.
Why don't they get married?
Marriage is always a mutual commitment and to a large extent - the loss of freedom that men cherish so much. That is why peers of girls who are striving to get married are in no hurry to propose, even if the couple lives together: in principle, everything suits them even without a stamp in their passport.
Sometimes girls complain: “I just can’t get married because the guy doesn’t call.” Or maybe this is just not the right man? If a man does not call his beloved girl in marriage, maybe he's just not ready for marriage and not ready to take responsibility?
This question is worth look from the other side: Is the girl herself ready for marriage? Emancipation did not benefit women in everything. Yes, they have become full members of society, receive education and work on an equal footing with men, but many have lost the idea of what it means to be the mistress of the house and the keeper of the hearth.
Some even consider it humiliating for themselves to do housework and “cook borscht”, as it is contemptuously called.
Remember the old saying, "The way to a man's heart is through his stomach"? But not everyone knows its continuation: “but it doesn’t start there.” So, only one "where the the way to a man's heart”, it is unlikely that it will be possible to keep it for the rest of its life, especially given the number of young beautiful women around, it is necessary to bind it to itself in all respects, including in everyday life, with care and attention.
How to meet the man of your dreams and marry him?
This is the name given to various manuals, which set out the rules and recommendations on how to find good husband and get married well.
First, let's immediately decide which man you should not marry in any case: these are drinkers and drug addicts. I guess every girl thinks she can change him break bad habit, but you should not count on this: as life experience shows, nothing will work out anyway.
Wean a man from addiction
Now about the "man of your dreams." Usually this is a rich handsome man (similar to Tom Cruise, Brad Pitt, George Clooney and other sex symbols), the embodiment of all virtues, ready to give flowers every day, make expensive gifts and ask for your hand and heart on his knees. As they say, it is not harmful to dream, it is harmful to wait for the realization of a pipe dream.
Be more realistic about life: pay attention, for example, to a guy from a neighboring house who does not take his eyes off you, or to a work colleague who is clearly not indifferent to you, or ... Every girl will probably have similar options. Of course, they pale in comparison with Tom Cruise, but what if this is the person with whom you will have a strong and friendly family, where you can feel not just married, but a husband?
So the only option is not to change the dream, but to change the dream
And here the practical question arises, whom to marry? For whom it is absolutely impossible, we have already said. Every girl wants to marry her beloved, but can you get along with him when the first passion passes? I want to marry successful, but can you accept the fact that work and career will he always comes first, and you will become just a convenient addition to everyday life?
Career for a successful man in 1st place
There are a lot of similar questions, for example, is it worth marrying a military man? If you are ready to wander around the garrisons with him, live in state-owned apartments or in a hostel, then probably yes.
Or such a question, is it necessary to marry a Russian? It is important to take into account the peculiarities of his upbringing. In our multinational country representatives different peoples so mixed up that you can often meet people in whose veins the blood of four or more nationalities flows, but who have the mentality of a Russian person. If a man is committed to his national traditions, then you will need to reckon with this, as well as with his relatives, who do not always accept a daughter-in-law of a different nationality with open arms.
Before a believing girl marries an unbeliever, she should think carefully, how will her husband react to her prayers, church attendance, fasting and everything related to faith. If with respect, then such a marriage may turn out to be successful, but if without respect, then you should think twenty times before making a fateful decision for yourself.
How to marry a rich man?
What girl has not dreamed of marrying a prince! Modern girls look at life more realistically and prefer to marry a wealthy man, and those who are attracted by a luxurious life, a sheikh. Just do not forget that this sheikh already has a full harem of beauties, and the maximum that you can count on is an idle and disenfranchised life in a golden cage.
Marry a rich man
A wealthy, and even better, a rich man, as you think, will be able to give you everything: a beautiful, carefree life, full of entertainment and social events. But what can you give him exactly, and what does he need at all? In sincere love and intimacy? But such people have a great and, as a rule, sad experience behind them, which taught them not to trust anyone, so that he will always doubt what attracted you: himself as a person or his wallet?
In addition, you need meet fairly high standards: even if you are not a beauty, you must definitely look stylish and well-groomed, dress fashionably, have a good education, own foreign language(and preferably two or three), have a broad outlook, be able to maintain a conversation and behave in society.
Be extremely careful about dating a "rich foreigner" on the Internet, too often it turns out to be an ordinary scam
rich men can meet outside of work at a resort (sea or ski), on a tennis or golf course, in a theater and at exhibitions, at social events, and finally, in a restaurant. If you work in a large company, then the option of an “office romance” is possible, which, however, rarely entails a marriage proposal.
Acquaintance with a man
What to do to get married?
How often can you hear from girls: “I want to make a man propose, but I can’t tell him about it.” And really, how to make a man propose as soon as possible, at least this year?
Many girls think that the most reliable way is to get pregnant. Indeed, marriage is often concluded for this reason, but it will become successful only when the guy is internally mature to become a father. Most of them imagine fatherhood only as soiled diapers, children's cries, sleepless nights and other "charms" that accompany the appearance of a child. But when this little man is born, when the guy takes him in his arms for the first time, he sees his smile, his defenselessness and openness to the world, in the guy awakening the instinct of fatherhood, protection instinct.
fatherhood instinct
Unfortunately, this is not always the case. Often a girl is left alone with her problem. Why does a man not call for marriage when the seed he has sown has sprouted? Most likely, afraid of responsibility, does not want to complicate his life and lose the notorious freedom. Or he simply did not grow up to be a man, but remained an infantile boy. You should not grieve much about him - such a marriage would still be unsuccessful, and you would have not one child, but two: a baby and his dad.
So what does it take to meet your man faster and get married, preferably in two days? The answer may seem paradoxical: be fully armed and let go of the situation. Being fully armed means, first of all, work on yourself: over their appearance, the ability to dress, broadening their horizons and range of interests, changing their lifestyle towards greater openness and communication. All this will increase your self-esteem and make you more interesting to others, including men.
No money for beauty salons and a fitness club?
Home treatments and workouts will be no less effective, since there are now a lot of such materials on the Internet.
It is not necessary to dress in expensive boutiques, you can find great things in the mass market, and if you also learn to knit and sew, you will look your best. Read more, watch on television not entertainment, but educational programs, communicate more with people, expand the circle of your acquaintances.
Develop yourself as a person
When you let go of the situation, that is, stop thinking with maniacal persistence that everyone around you got married, and you are still single, then he will appear - even if not a prince on a white horse, but exactly the person with whom you will have every chance on the " happily ever after».
Believing girls can be helped by the answer of the priest and the prayer to the saints who "know" women's happiness: icon Mother of God "Fadeless Color", Nicholas the Wonderworker, Matrona of Moscow, Paraskeva Pyatnitsa and others.
Tips for getting married
The most famous sign of imminent marriage at a wedding for unmarried girls is to catch the bride's bouquet. The chances of an early marriage increase, if you are a witness from the side of the bride. In addition, it is desirable:
- dance with the groom (but so that he invites you himself);
- borrow a pin or hairpin from her head from the bride's dress;
- get a box of wedding rings;
- to be poured with champagne;
- sit at a wedding feast between sisters or (better) brothers;
- you can attract marriage with a ribbon from someone else's wedding.
Folk omens for marriage, if you can’t get married for a long time, seem to have lost their relevance. For example, you need to sweep the garbage with a broom from the door to the window and do not sweep a circle around you. So, you have to give up the vacuum cleaner.
What else can not be done if you want to get married quickly:
- measure someone else's Wedding Dress and a veil (you can measure in the salon);
- wear rings on the ring finger - it is intended for engagement;
- sit at a table on the corner - you won’t get married for seven years;
- combing your hair in the presence of strangers;
- pass something over the threshold;
- sit on the windowsill;
- keep muzhegon flowers in the house (violets, oleander, cacti, etc.).
The best means and ways to get married
The problem of marriage is relevant for girls of all times and peoples, so there are many rituals, rituals, etc. You can try to attract love according to Feng Shui, or you can use a runic becoming, where there is a rune to attract a man for love and marriage. Esotericism and psychic advice will help you get in the right mood, you just need to make a wish correctly. It is also useful to find out what stones to wear to get married, what flowers to keep at home, and so on.
According to Feng Shui, peonies contribute to marriage, especially if you embroider them with your own hands.
Embroidered peonies for marriage
How to quickly marry a loved one?
Is it possible to successfully marry in just 3 days of dating, even if it was love at first sight? Such examples occur, although very rarely. But, as one wise woman said, it is better to marry twice than none. It's not the fact of marriage that matters. but what the marriage will be like. It is impossible to recognize a person in a few days of dating, so you will have a long period of recognition and grinding to each other.
If you have been in love with a person for a long time, try to attract his attention not only with your spectacular appearance, but also with your mind, sense of humor and the same attitude towards life. If a loved one is set up only for non-binding relationships, including sex, then you should not marry him. Try to find a person, configured for a serious relationship, a strong family, children, this is the basis of a successful marriage.
To bring a loved one to the thought of marriage, do not rush. Try to find out his interests, talk more about him, emphasizing his positive features. When a man sees that they understand him and do not try to put pressure on him, he will quickly come to the idea of marriage. If you start rushing him, then you are unlikely to get married.
June 27, 2018, 12:25
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